There is no fate. In the words of a warrior poet, and great thinker:
"Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face"
-- Mike Tyson
You dont have clue if you have twins or single kid. And if you would have ability to control it, would you actually?
SmokeDragon its rather simple actually. There is no fate. Were hardwired for this, all else is going into the realm where there are no tits but mammary glands. Where there is no cuddles but chemical changes in brain... You can vacation there to get some ideas, but have an exit strategy from it. Like Christ or Nature, so you can compost your bullshit and replant something on it.
You get the idea. :